In sports, we either feel disappointed after a loss or we don't. We make these subconscious determinations of success in other areas as well. For others it is higher and for others it is lower. For many of us, the dividing line between success and failure lies somewhere in the upper 80s. Our subconscious makes that decision for us. We don't receive a graded test, look at the score, and then ponder whether or not it is a successful score. Similarly, each of us has that gut feeling that tells us whether we've been successful or not. Similarly, there are few among us who would truly call a very happy drug dealer a successful person.
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Few of us can see the wealthy businessman in a thousand-dollar suit, driving a Mercedes, and legitimately call him unsuccessful, regardless of how miserable he looks talking on his bluetooth headset. Any of us can look at the compiled achievements of a person and determine if that person is successful. Perhaps the issue at hand here is not the definition of success, but the question, "how content are we with not succeeding?" Right now, our images of success are implemented onto us by our parents, entertainment, popular common ideals of what success SHOULD mean, and I don't believe that we can develop an appropriate definition of success, when we haven't experienced the majority of our lives. In high school, my success is based on my happiness and how content I am with how I am improving, socializing, behaving, etc.Īfter high school, success can be measured by various means, and I don't think those can be determined by US as juniors. In middle school, my success was on my report card, in hopes that I could keep my newly gained cellphone with the good grades I had achieved. In elementary school, success for me was measured by winning a pizza party at the end of the month, or getting our "cougar cash" for the school store. I have to agree with Grace! As juniors in high school, our success might be measured on a report card, a trophy, a sports medal, a certificate claimin you're outstanding in some aspect. I think we, as a society, need to find a compromise between the two extremes to truly measure success I measure success based on achievement, status, and grades but I also measure my success based on whether or not I’m happy, whether or not I think I’m doing the right thing, whether or not I’m fulfilling my role in life. Why is it that society cares so much about status, wealth, and achievement? It’s funny how most of us are scared to say we measure our success based on, arguably, the wrong things. Obviously this isn’t the way to go about life, that much is clear from the comments above, but yet 98% of US citizens based success off achievement, income, and status. I measure success based on my grades, my predicted future, my athletic achievement and of course, whether or not I’m reaching my parents goals for me in life. Truthfully I am like the majority of society. It’s funny much I want to be able to say that I am like Stanford graduate, who measures success based on her own parameters and no longer subscribes to the value system that measures success by achievement and income, not character.” I could write a beautiful comment about how I measure success solely based on my character and the small things in life and happiness but then I’d be lying. So, I guess you can say that I lean more to the side that the kind of person you are in life will depend on weather or not people see you as "successful" or not. It's all who you make yourself to be and what path you take that will depend where you go in life. I do however believe that what you do in life- being a good person or a criminal- will lead you down paths that can make you have a better life, live life with your family, alone, or in prison. If we define success as reaching a goal then are all thief's, murderers, rapist's and bad people in life, then wouldn't they all be "successful" by definition? If they reach a goal and complete it, isn't that being "successful"? But who are we to determine someone's "success"?Įveryone is different and everyone is good at different things. Success cannot be measured, I could think one person is successful and Nerisia could think the complete opposite. I completely agree with Nerisia on this one.